Moving is hard for everyone. It’s a lot of work, and there are a lot of emotions that go into packing up one home and moving to another one. A move can be especially difficult for children, however. Kids can feel like they have no control during a move. They are leaving behind their home, their school, their friends, and most of what they know.
You can’t completely eliminate the stress of a move, but you can help your children get through the process a little easier. Here are some tips from parents on how to make your household move less stressful for your children.
Give your kids time to adjust to the idea of moving. Children will need time to say goodbye to friends, but giving them too much time can cause them to worry more about the upcoming move. Younger children need only a month or two of advance notice. Older children and teens, however will need more time. They have more friends, more activities, and more memories in the old house.
Involve your children in the process if you can. Bring older kids along on a house-hunting trip. Consult your children about paint and decorations in their new room. If you have some flexibility, ask your kids for input on what they want in your new home. If you are able to find a home that fits some of their requirements, your kids will be much more excited about the move.
Encourage your children to remember your previous home. Talk with them about your favorite memories in your old house, or make a scrapbook. If your child has never lived anyplace else, the home is obviously very special to them. Help them deal with the separation by allowing them to share their memories.
At the same time, help them get excited about their new home. Visit the new neighborhood and school before the move if you can, or show them pictures and videos of the area. Talk about the new friends they will make, the new things they’ll learn, and the details about your new neighborhood. This will make it easier to deal with the anxiety of leaving behind what they know.
Most of all, pay attention to how your children are feeling and support them. Acknowledge their separation issues and help them work through them. This will make it easier for your kids to settle in and enjoy their new home. Contact me today for a consultation. I will be happy to answer any questions you may have, and/or help you find your dream home.
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